Its nothing to do with the shop. What is required is for the manufacturer,in this case Cannondale, to give authority to Bosch to supply the software to the registered Bosch dealership to allow them to make the adjustment. In this case Cannondale are not interested in even attempting to do that quoting that Bosch wont allow it. In the thread link you sent it would appear that Scott have managed to convince Bosch to allow for this to happen. My lbs who has what he describes as a good relationship with Bosch has not been able to convince them to supply the software. There are no such issues with Shimano or Brose or Bafang for that matter. Not sure about Yamaha
I dont think you're understanding - but this is my last input to try and help. I think there are 2 issues here, firstly the ability to actually change the wheelsize and secondly the affect of changing the wheelsize on the warranty - and these two issues are being conflated.
The vast majority of the bosch gen 4 motors use the generic bosch firmware - some of them (trek being one) use a custom firmware , but cannondale is not one of them who use the custom firmware. The same firmware is used on all bosch gen 4 bikes, all bikes with vastly different configurations - wheelsize being one variable.
with this generic firmware, using the bosch dealer software you can just program it with a new wheelsize, the shop who is telling you that they need to get permission from bosch and/or cannondale is not telling the truth (or is unaware) , it can be changed by the dealer. There is no new software required.
If the shop are also telling you that they think changing the wheelsize would invalidate the warranty , and therefore they do not wish to invalidate the warranty so will not change the wheelsize without cannondale confirming it is ok - well this is their call, and they have the right to do so , it clearly wont actually cause any warranty issues, but dealers are dealers.
So Go find a bosch dealer who is not a cannondale dealer and get them (pay them) to change the wheelsize for you - but you may have issues with the warranty should you ever need to claim on it.