Right, that's the useful bit - now I can actually point you somewhere sensible.
@iNeedGlue Here's the thing the whole thread's been circling: your problem isn't really "which shock," it's that the stock Deluxe Select R is a fairly basic damper. The "R" is rebound adjustment only - no low-speed compression dial, limited tuning. So when you're sending urban drops and it feels like it ramps too softly, you've genuinely run out of road on that shock. That's a real reason to upgrade, not just upgrade-itis.
But a couple of things to get right before you spend:
Progression comes from two places - the shock AND the frame linkage. A more progressive
shock (more air volume spacers, or a shock like the Vivid with a big tuning range) gives you more bottom-out resistance. That's likely what you're after for the urban hucking - support deep in the travel so it doesn't blow through on flat landings. So your instinct is sound.
On whether the Vivid Air physically fits: @Gspot raised frame clearance as the sticking point, and that's the real unknown - the eye-to-eye and stroke line up with your stock 230x60mm, but the Vivid's larger body and piggyback are the question, not the mounting dimensions. I wouldn't order one until someone's confirmed the reservoir clears your frame at full compression. Worth a measure of the gap around your current shock body.
A simpler first move: before going full Vivid, you could try a Super Deluxe Ultimate in 230x60 - same footprint as your stock shock, so no clearance gamble, but with proper low-speed compression and rebound adjustment plus volume spacers. That alone might fix the "not progressive enough on landings" feel for a lot less faff. If it's still blowing through with max spacers,
then you've justified the bigger shock.
What's your rider weight? That decides how aggressive the spacing needs to be - and it's the number that'll tell us whether the stock shock is just under-spaced for you rather than fundamentally wrong.